So, this is just an informal check-in, but how are those resolutions going for you? Did you even make one? A couple of days before NYE I asked people their resolutions and most people were drawing a blank and said they don't usually make one. I found this very hard to believe!! I am not judging or criticizing, just simply stating that it's part of who I am to try and make changes and grow. I think that is what led me to the field of psychology-- maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like the whole point of therapy is to gain insight about oneself and grow.
I really do like making resolutions, but if I have to be honest, my favorite time to do it is on my birthday. For the past couple of years I have selected a word to describe how I want my year to go. I usually just share it with Jesse and a few friends and I have found that it's really helpful to have something to focus on (and only have a few people to hold you accountable). I also have to say that it usually comes to fruition. Let me try and remember my list:
2008- Adventurous / 2009- Sexy / 2010- Professional (I felt this was necessary after being too sexy) / 2011- Articulate (I had just started my masters program) / 2012- Can't remember (it would be funny if the word was Remember or Reflect) / 2013- Powerful / 2014- Entrepreneurial
The real point of this post is to just reflect on time, change, and growth. As a kid I absolutely LOVED the movie "Back to the Future"- maybe because it takes place in my birth year or because of the awesome soundtrack or maybe because Michael J. Fox is the cutest person ever. I saw him speak at City Arts and Lectures a few years ago and it was one of the most powerful things I have ever been to. Did you see the Mashable article about the "Back to the Future" Nikes that are being released this year? Read it here.
So here we are in 2015- 30 years after Marty McFly left 1985 and headed to the future- are things where you thought they would be? How far in advance do you think? What is your time orientation? There are considered to be two types of time: Monochronic Time and Polychronic Time. The US is considered a monochronic culture- time is broken up into precise units and value is placed on getting things done. On the other hand, polychronic time takes a fluid approach to time. This perspective is often seen in East Asia, Latin America, and Africa, to name a few.
Having worked solely in education prior to working on Perfect 10 SF full-time, my concept of time was based on school bells! It's probably hard for a lot of people to comprehend because they haven't heard a school bell since their last class senior year of high school. It's ironic because in some ways I never had to know what time it was because the bells would tell me what I needed to know: it's next period.
So, I'd like to think that I've gone from one extreme of living in monochronic time to working and blogging in polychronic time. I have to say that I feel a lot less rushed, a lot less frantic, and a whole hell of a lot less like a chicken running around with it's head cut off!
So as I look at the next couple months ahead, I realize I have A LOT to look forward to: New York Fashion Week, a Babymoon, Showers, Jenna's Baby's 1st Birthday, Jesse's 30th Birthday, and a baby of our own!!!!! But what I am asking for this year is patience. Not that I am impatient, but can you ever be too patient?
Here are some of my goals/ resolutions for the year:
- Get up and move more! Yes, I am a very active person and physically I need to move a lot and often, but with my position as a school counselor I often sit for a few consecutive hours. My goal is to take a few breaks and walk around the beautiful neighborhood and stretch my legs.
- Create an app/ robot/ device that tells me when Maroon 5 is coming on Pandora/ iTunes Radio/ the radio. I felt like every music outlet was saturated with Maroon 5 and I would be really happy if I could never hear a Maroon 5 song again. Those songs really know how to get under my skin. I swear there must be subliminal messages in their songs saying that they're are good songs and you should love their next single.
- Keep my purse organized. This is a secret I should probably take to the grave but for the sake of everyone's growth (mostly mine), I will share. I usually use a purse for about a month and then retire it. I have finally unwillingly admitted to myself that it's not for style reasons. It's because over a few weeks my purse becomes a moving trash bag! I have receipts, business cards, gum wrappers, coins, lottery tickets (my mom makes me play- truth! She says I'm very lucky), keys, straws, should I keep going? More receipts, trail mix wrappers, spoons, lots of lipsticks, eyelash glue. It's atrocious! I usually have to switch out the bag because it's full. I really need to work on this and will be getting more organized! I swear.
- Get to know people who have different personalities than me. I'm always drawn to fun, outgoing, vibrant, charismatic people. Everyone in my life is this way- everyone in my family and all of our friends, regardless of the age. I am going to try and make an effort to get to know people who are more reserved, introverted, and quiet. I have to be honest- this will be very hard for me!
What are your resolutions or goals for this year?
Whether you're monochronic or polychronic, there's likely someone in your life who is the opposite. Here are some watches for the monochronic!